About Conflict

You don’t need to sacrifice your core needs to have a great relationship, but you also have to recognize that your partner’s needs matter as much as your own. The key is balance: if you give up what you need to take care of yourself, you’ll become less of yourself and resentment will build. Instead of selling yourself out for the sake of peace, healthy relationships require negotiation and learning to handle conflict constructively—honoring both people’s needs. When conflict is approached in a way that respects each partner equally, you can have intimacy and warmth while still taking care of yourself. #johngottman #gottmanmethod