You Can't Make Your Partner Change

This question was submitted from one of our subscribers. Can you convince your partner to go to therapy? Dr. John Gottman says the answer is no. Instead of focusing on how your partner needs to change, start with what you feel, what you need, and what’s happening in the relationship. Using a gentle or softened startup can help couples communicate without falling into criticism, defensiveness, or contempt—patterns that can damage trust and connection over time. Healthy relationships aren’t about fixing your partner. They’re about communicating your needs with respect. Subscribe to our channel and drop your questions in the long form video chats. John may answer them. #JohnGottman #GottmanMethod #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #CommunicationSkills #ConflictResolution #CouplesCommunication #MarriageCounseling #RelationshipProblems #EmotionalIntelligence #Contempt #FourHorsemen **Disclaimer:** The content on this channel is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Watching these videos does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you're in crisis, seek help from a licensed professional or emergency services.